- Stories & Articles by Sonia
Articles and Stories by Sonia Pressman Fuentes
- In Memoriam: Lynn Ruth Miller.
- On July 29, 2020, the new website of the Cornell Club of Sarasota-Manatee was launched. It included Sonia's article on her friendship with the late Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg.
- Sonia's article, "The Meadows has a fascinating history," appeared in the online newspaper, the Sarasota News Leader, on Sept. 13, 2019. Sonia bought a condo at The Meadows in March 1999 and thereafter spent varying amounts of time there during the winters. Beginning on Nov. 1, 2006, she lived there full-time until Nov. 1, 2019, when she moved to a nearby Jewish senior community called Aviva. In early January 2020, The Meadoword, the newspaper of The Meadows, republished that article. You can access it here.
- Sonia's article, "How Being an Immigrant Shaped My Life," appeared in the summer newsletter of the Jewish Genealogical Society of SW Florida, published on April 3, 2019, and on its website. You can read the article in pdf format here.
- On Jan. 14, 2019, Sonia's remembrance of her late, feminist friend, Dr. Bernice "Bunny" Sandler (known as the "Godmother of Title IX"), who died at the age of 90 on Jan. 5, 2019, in her Washington, D.C. condo, was published in the "We Remember" section of the Jewish Women's Archive (JWA).
- On Nov. 1, 2018, a paperback anthology of writings by older women about their lives entitled “You’re Doing What?: Older Women’s Tales of Achievement & Adventure,” edited by Marjorie Penn Lasky, was published. In a section called " A Life of Activism," it contains a piece by Sonia named "Eighty-five years old in Sarasota County, Florida." The book can be purchased from Amazon. For purchases in bulk, Regent Press (email@example.com) will take orders for 10 or more books and provide them at a discount.
- Sonia's write-up of her experiences with Hurricane Irma in Sarasota in September of 2017 appeared in the Cornell Alumni Magazine of July/Aug. 2018 in the Class Notes for her class, the class of 1950, on page 69.
- On March 20, 2018, Mary Wilson, president of the Greater Orlando, FL chapter of NOW, put Sonia's write-up on how she became a feminist in the chapter's enewsletter.
- In honor of International Holocaust Remembrance Day on January 27, 2018, The Forward newspaper shared its readers' stories, including Sonia's.
- Sonia participates in a one-hour webinar set up by the National Women's History Project (NWHP) on Jan. 13, 2016. 1) Click here to read about NWHP. 2) To listen to the oral comments and see the written comments, click on "webinar archive" toward the bottom of your screen. On the "webinar archive" screen, it is, however, very difficult to move the written comments up or down. 3) To get a clearer view of the written comments and to be able to move them up and down easily, click on "Chat Log." 4) Click on "Final PowerPoint Presentation" if you would like to see that.
- Sonia's article on the second wave of the women's movement: its origin, accomplishments, and the problems that remain--both in the U.S. and globally--appeared on June 14, 2015, on the website of the Institute for Science and Human Values.
- Sonia's write-up appeared on the Facebook page of the Red Star Line Museum commemorating the 81st anniversary of the arrival in the U.S. from Germany, via Belgium, of Sonia and the rest of her immediate family.
- "My Jewish Weekend in Sarasota," sent by Sonia to her friends, Nov. 16, 2014.
- "History Without Hitler?", Op-Ed in the New York Times and its international edition, October 26, 2014. This Op-Ed was written by Sonia's friend, Timothy Ryback, and edited by Sonia.
- "End of Life Issue," October 16, 2014.
- “Top 18 Issues Challenging Women Today,” The Shriver Report, May 5, 2014.
- Sonia’s letter of April 16, 2014, to Bishop Frank J. DeWane, bishop of the Venice, FL diocese, is on the blog of Bridget Mary Meehen.
- “The Second Wave of the Women’s Movement—Past, Present, and Future,” Women You You Should Know website, March 26, 2014.
- Sonia reminisces about her three British feminist friends, March 25, 2014.
- Sonia’s article about her trip to the Catskills appeared in the Jewish News of Sarasota-Manatee (Jan. 2014, Vol. 44, No. 1, p. 23A).
- Three-part series by Sonia in the Sullivan County Democrat, a newspaper in the Catskill Mountains of New York State.
- Sonia’s submission to the book Mother Knows Better - Sense and Nonsense from American Moms by Patti Murphy is one of over two hundred momisms in the book.
- Sonia’s article about the travails of The Forward after Superstorm Sandy appeared in Der Bay (Vol. XXIII, No. II, Mar.-Apr. 2013, p. 12).
- NOW (National Organization for Women) Founder Sonia Fuentes Gives Back To Education.
- "A heart-healthy diet is easier to adhere to than it may seem, especially with plenty of grocery and restaurant choices in Sarasota," December 7, 2012. (To see this article, which first appeared in the online Sarasota News Leader, once the large picture appears, scroll down to the article.) On April 27, 2015, the article was published on the website of Vegan Everyday Stories. On May 22, 2015, a shortened version of the article appeared on the website of the T. Colin Campbell Center for Nutrition Studies.
- “A Journey of Discovery,” Sonia’s article about her September 2011 week’s trip to Germany exploring Jewish life in Germany, published in two parts.
- "Finding My Identity as a Feminist" - This article appeared in the online magazine, Identity, on September 21, 2011.
- "My Story" - This article appeared in HavaMag, Issue 4, August, 2011.
- To access the article:
- Click on the arrow to the right until it takes you to the Table of Contents on the left.
- Click on the first item in the Table of Contents, which is the article about Sonia, on page 10.
- When you come to the article, double click on each page to make the type readable.
- To access the article:
- "First Woman: Sonia Pressman Fuentes," appeared at the end of July 2011 in Ms. JD, an e-zine for women law students and lawyers.
- “Judging Our Future: Supreme Women Move Up,” about the increasing percent of women judges on the U.S. Supreme Court and other courts, went online in the Café section of On the Issues e-zine on December 21, 2010. In February of 2012, the article was added to the featured news & comments section of the website of Cornell University’s Avon Global Center for Women and Justice.
- "Advancing Rights: 1964 Marks the Beginning of a New Era" - This article was published in On The Issues Magazine, Café section, on August 25, 2010, in celebration of Women’s Equity Day, the 90th anniversary of suffrage, August 26, 2010.
- Sonia has written articles for Scitable, a website for women in science, or been introduced as a resource on women and employment law for Scitable, as follows:
- Sonia decries American women’s ignorance of the legal rights they have achieved since the early 1960s and lists those rights. (August 13, 2013)
- Sonia discusses breast implant ruptures and leaks. (Mar. 21, 2011)
- "Sonia Pressman Fuentes on Pregnancy Leave, Parental Care Leave, and the Law" - Sonia explains the law on leave and benefits in connection with pregnancy, delivery, and post-delivery. (July 28, 2010)
- Correction to posting of June 3, 2010, introducing Sonia as Scitable’s resource on women and employment law. (June 4, 2010)
- Sonia is introduced as Scitable’s resource on women and employment law. (June 3, 2010)
- "My Life After Divorce" - Sonia discusses her life after divorce for a “Divorce and Women’s Success” series. (2010)
- "A Negative Experience, A Positive Outcome" - The lucky day Fuentes was fired. (2009)
- "First Wedding at the Fontainebleau," an unpublished anecdote, November 23, 2008.
- Added as a Luminary on inspiremetoday.com, Oct. 2009, and updated in Nov. 2013.
- “If You Build It, They Will Come—The Birth of A Yiddish Club,” published in Der Bay, The International Anglo-Yiddish Newsletter (Vol. XVII, No. 9, Nov. 2007). Sonia starts a Yiddish Club in Sarasota, FL. Also published in the Gantseh Megillah. (Nov. 14, 2007, Issue 8.10)
- "My Fortuitous Escape from the Holocaust and My Life Thereafter" - This article is published on a Web site called "Women and the Holocaust." (2006)
- “A Love Letter to Ostuni” (2005)
- "My Visit to Piltz" - A sequel to "A Visit to Piltz." (2005)
- "Three-hour Tour Turns Unforgettable" - This article, by Fuentes, recalling the saga of her trip to the Thomas Edison and Henry Ford estates in Ft. Myers, FL, appeared in The East County Observer, a newspaper in East Manatee and Sarasota Counties, Florida, January 16, 2003.
- "I Lucky Everything: The Story of a Real `Miss Saigon'" - Along with a manicure, a reminder of how immigrants revitalize our nation. (2002)
- "A Visit to Piltz" - This article is about Fuentes' August 2001 journey to her parents' birthplace, a village called Piltz in Poland. (2001)
- "How I Built a Life in Retirement" - Sonia had a difficult time adjusting to retirement, and then she entered the best years of her life. (2000)
- "How I Published My Memoir: A Lawyer-Feminist's Story" - This is the story of the six years Fuentes spent in researching, writing, publishing and marketing her memoir and making the transition from being a lawyer to a writer and public speaker. (Also see: "How I Got Published in South Africa) (2000)
- "A Seder in Shanghai" - Fuentes participates in a seder in a most unlikely city, Shanghai, China. This piece appeared previously in JoyZine and on Harry Leichter's website. (1999)
- "HUD Goes to the Moscow Trade Show" - This article was originally published in Sparks 28. March - April, 1999. (1999)
- Breast Cancer and Ruptured/Leaking Breast Implants - The story of Fuentes' experience with breast cancer. (1998)
- "Three United States Feminists: A Personal Tribute" - This article is about Fuentes' most memorable encounters with Alice Paul, the Rev. Dr. Pauli Murray, and Catherine East (1998). Later that year, a slightly different version of the segment on Alice Paul was published in Moondance. A more readable version can be accessed here.
- “Representing Women,” a 17-page article, originally published in Frontiers, a Journal of Women Studies (Vol. 18, No.3, Nov. 3, 1997), by the Washington State University Press, is available by emailing Sonia at firstname.lastname@example.org and asking her to email it to you or by purchasing it at jstor.org. This was Sonia’s first published article about women’s rights.
- "House of History" (written in 1996) -- A history of the headquarters of the National Woman's Party (NWP). The house, most recently known as the Belmont-Paul Women's Equality National Monument and previously known as the Sewall-Belmont House, was for many years the headquarters of the National Woman's Party. However, at the end of 2020, NWP ended its existence and transferred its functions to the Alice Paul Institute in New Jersey.
- "Magnolias" - A Washington, DC, love story. (1996)
- "Family Past Unfolds Like Detective Story" - Research Leads to Ship's Records, a Movie and Snapshots. (1995)
- “Impressions: The Status of Women in Southeast Asia,” published in the Common Law Lawyer (no longer in existence), Sept.-Oct. 1978. (To enlarge the print on machines using Windows, hold down the control button of your computer while moving the wheel of your mouse. If viewing through Adobe Acrobat, enlarge the text with the plus button, or use the percentage dropdown list.)
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Sonia Pressman Fuentes
My Fortuitous Escape from the Holocaust and My Life Thereafter
by Sonia Pressman Fuentes
My parents were both born in the 1890s in a Polish shtetl called Piltz, an hour’s ride by car from Cracow. My father had, however, left Piltz for Germany as a teenager and after his marriage to my mother in Poland in 1913, they lived in Germany. My father began as a tailor and by January 1933 he rented and ran a men’s clothing store and factory in Berlin, where my mother and brother helped out. In addition, he had recently bought a 40-apartment 4-store building for investment purposes. The family consisted of my parents, my brother, Hermann, who was 14 years my senior and I.
On January 30, 1933, President von Hindenburg appointed Hitler Reichs Chancellor of Germany. A year earlier, my brother, Hermann, had become concerned about the growing power of Hitler and the Nazis. After Hitler’s accession to the Reichs Chancellorship, Hermann became increasingly aware of the atrocities perpetrated by the Nazis against Jews, and urged my parents to leave Berlin. They initially scoffed at this suggestion, believing that Hitler would soon blow over. In May of 1933, my brother left Berlin on his own for Antwerp, Belgium. Subsequently, concerned that my brother was alone in a foreign country, my parents agreed to follow him. My father met with a small group of Nazis and agreed to turn his store, factory and apartment building over to them for a fraction of their value, and they agreed to let us go.
My parents and I, then five years old, arrived in Antwerp in July 1933. Thereafter, my father spent many fruitless months exploring getting into various businesses in Antwerp, Paris, Czechoslovakia, Palestine, and even returning to Berlin. Nothing worked out and he blamed Hermann for taking us out of Germany. Then my father happened to read an article in a Yiddish newspaper about ships leaving for the United States and decided the family would emigrate to the United States. On April 20, 1934, we boarded the Red Star Line’s S.S. Westernland in Antwerp bound for New York City.
We arrived in New York City on May 1,1934. Neither of my parents had any education to speak of and, except for Hermann, none of us knew a word of English. My mother was 42 years old, my father 40, Hermann was 19, and I was 5. We knew no one except some cousins in Brooklyn. But we did not arrive destitute as my father had sent money ahead.
Initially, we rented an apartment in the Bronx, and my father returned to the business he knew; he opened a men’s clothing store in Manhattan with a partner. But he could not take the pace of life in New York City and after a summer vacation in the Catskill Mountains of New York State, my father decided the family would move to the Catskills and go into a business he knew nothing about, the summer resort business.
In 1936, we moved to Woodridge, New York, a village one square mile in area with a population of about 700 people, where my parents rented and ran a rooming house, or kokhaleyn, during the summer season.
After five years of that, my parents bought 50 acres of land in the nearby town of Monticello, New York, where they built a 25-bungalow colony with a swimming pool, handball court and home for us.
I learned English in the Bronx and began kindergarten there. Then I continued my schooling in Woodridge and Monticello.
From childhood on, I felt different from my classmates. My parents were older than my classmates’ parents since I was born when my mother was 36 years old; my parents were European and so was I. Furthermore, I felt I wasn’t free as other girls were to pursue marriage, family and personal happiness. Three factors in my life led me to believe that I had been born and my life saved so that I could make some contribution to the world: I had been born only because my mother’s favorite abortionist was temporarily out of the country, I had escaped the Holocaust and I was bright.
I graduated as valedictorian of my high school class in 1946 and Phi Beta Kappa from Cornell University in 1950. I then worked for about four years as a secretary for several companies in Manhattan. (By that time, my parents had sold the bungalow colony and moved to Long Beach, Long Island, New York, where my brother and his family lived.) But the idea that there was something I needed to do in the world never left me, so in September 1954, I enrolled at the University of Miami (Florida) School of Law.
In 1957, I graduated first in my class and moved to Washington, D.C., to begin work as an attorney in the Department of Justice. After 1½ years there, I transferred to the National Labor Relations Board (NLRB) and worked for that agency in Washington, D.C., Pittsburgh, PA; and Los Angeles, CA. Then, still looking for that job where I could make a contribution to society, in October of 1965, I joined a three-month old agency, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), as the first woman attorney in its Office of the General Counsel. And that was the place where I was supposed to be.
The EEOC administered Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, a law that had become effective July 2, 1965, which prohibited discrimination in employment by covered employers, employment agencies and labor unions based on race, color, religion, sex and national origin. (Later, discrimination based on age and physical or mental handicap were added.)
That law was passed in response to the civil rights movement, and, accordingly, most of the 100 employees then at the EEOC were there to fight discrimination in employment based on race or color. They did not want the Commission’s time and resources diverted to sex discrimination. I, however, felt that the prohibitions against sex discrimination had to be implemented just as all the other provisions of the law had to be implemented. I became the staff member who stood for aggressive enforcement of the sex discrimination prohibitions of the Act, and this caused me no end of grief.
One day a writer came to the EEOC to interview the General Counsel and his deputy for a book she planned to write. Her name was Betty Friedan and she had become famous through writing The Feminine Mystique, which had been published in 1963. When she saw me, a woman, in the office, she asked me what the conflicts and problems were at the EEOC. As a government employee, I was fearful of leveling with her, so I told her everything was fine. But when she came again, it was on a day that I was feeling particularly frustrated with the Commission’s inaction with regard to sex discrimination, and I invited her into the privacy of my office. There I told her that what this country needed was an organization to fight for women’s rights like the NAACP fought for the rights of Negroes (the term then in vogue).
Thereafter, in June 1966, at a conference of Commissions on the Status of Women in Washington, D.C., 28 of the attendees formed an organization that subsequently became NOW (National Organization for Women). They were joined by 26 additional founders, of whom I was one, at an organizational conference at the end of October 1966 in Washington, D.C., where we adopted a statement of purpose and skeletal bylaws. (NOW today has 500,000 members.)
NOW then embarked upon a campaign to get the EEOC to enforce Title VII for women. It filed lawsuits, petitioned the EEOC for public hearings, picketed the EEOC and the White House and generally mobilized public opinion. As a result, the EEOC began to take seriously its mandate to eliminate sex discrimination in employment.
In October 1970, I married and in 1972, when I was 43 1/2 years old, I gave birth to my daughter, Zia.
I left the EEOC in June of 1973 and subsequently worked as an attorney and an executive at the headquarters of two multinational corporations, GTE Service Corporation in Stamford, CT, and TRW Inc., in Cleveland, OH. I was the highest-paid woman employee at both those locations.
In 1986, I returned to Washington, D.C., as an attorney in the Office of the General Counsel at HUD (U.S. Dept. of Housing and Urban Development), from which position I retired in May of 1993.
Upon retirement, I floundered around for about a year and then began writing my memoir, Eat First--You Don’t Know What They’ll Give You, The Adventures of an Immigrant Family and Their Feminist Daughter. The book was published at the end of November 1999, and the rewards have been beyond my wildest expectations. I embarked on new careers as a writer and public speaker. A wonderful Web designer, Danne Polk, offered to create a Web site for me, did so and maintains it to this day at http://www.erraticimpact.com/fuentes.
The book has gotten rave reviews, and I have been the subject of many interviews and the recipient of numerous awards. In 2000, I was inducted into the Maryland Women’s Hall of Fame and returned to speak to two classes at my alma mater, Cornell University, 50 years after the date of my graduation.
In September 2005, I was included in an online exhibit of the Jewish Women’s Archive, consisting of 74 Jewish women who contributed to women’s rights in the U.S. (http://www.jwa.org/feminism). I am also among those featured in a documentary to be released in December of 2006 called The Second Wave, about the second wave of the women’s movement.
In 1995, I began visiting Sarasota, FL, during the winters and now divide my time between my homes there and in Potomac, MD.
My retirement began with confusion as to what to do with the rest of my life but has thus far turned into the richest period of my life.
©2006 Sonia Pressman Fuentes. This article is also published on a Web site called "Women and the Holocaust."